Ordeal lies in the root of Kramer Vs Kramer, because this Academy Award winning film doesn’t even have a dignified opening ‘sequence’ of sorts, which is quite rare to see in a film shined on by the likes of Meryl Streep and Dustin Hoffman, but which also turns out to be a meticulous technique to signify how deeply connected is it to real life, that doesn’t ever specify when it will fall apart.

Kramer vs Kramer as the name suggests, is the story of a legal custody battle between Ted Kramer (Hoffman) and Joanna Kramer (Streep) who long for happiness and solace, which they both look for in their little boy Billy.
The film is quite ahead of its time, because it doesn’t use stereotypical narratives like domestic abuse, adultery or constant fights to justify a couple splitting up. Nor does it use other kinds of stereotypes like mutual consensus. Instead, the couple breaks up through the standpoint of the wife who seeks independence and love, and more than blame it all on her better half, states that she needs to find herself and seek respect from within, something I surely wouldn’t see in films from the 70s. That doesn’t mean though, that the film doesn’t get problematic as it unfolds. But what my outtake would recommend you is to try not to look at it through the feminist lens. Yes it might seem problematic and sexist too on many levels but custody battles seldom leave out any form of disgust. So yes there is anti feminism but the director shamelessly comes out with it because otherwise he can’t show the truth. It’s not glorification. It’s facts.
Dustin Hoffman is beautiful and so human as Ted, who isn’t apologetic when he needs to be, but subconsciously tries to mend things any which way he can. The Graduate surely isn’t my favorite film of his now. It’s this. Precisely why he won the Academy Award for Best Actor for this film, alongside Meryl Streep who also won Best Supporting Actress. Stating the obvious, Streep like all of her roles plays Joanna to perfection. It’s hard to overlook her capabilities as an actor, as her performance is always timeless. She surely knows how to own the frame. She’s mostly present in the second half but dominates the entire film at large.
There are series of points and counterpoints from every side leading you to believe that one is going to win or you are somehow to pick one side as the viewer. It’s only later that you realise it was never about right and wrong. It was about ill timings and ignorance that leads to a break in relationships. It is a very simple story if you come down to it but yet it feels complex and gut wrenching almost symbolically hinting at how gruesome real life can get.
There’s a lot you wish you could change but can’t. Some things, once they’re done can’t be undone
– Ted Kramer (Kramer vs Kramer)
Child actor Justin Henry as Billy is quite efficient in his portrayal of little kid trying to understand his parents getting separated and the gradual development of his relationship with Ted is amazingly poignant.
For sure, the film talks about gender roles and as stated above, the inability to take sides as a viewer is proof of how these roles defining parenthood are extremely problematic and unnecessary.
Another due applaud to the makers would be highlighting gender stereotypes through subtleties, like when Ted goes to attend Billy’s performance at school or when he goes to pick him up from a birthday party, all we see around him are women or mothers, and the only thing making Ted do all this is Joanna’s absence. This commentary on societal definitions of ‘normal’ is powerful.
Kramer vs Kramer is an important film at large, and even drives attention and interest right from the very beginning, but honestly, Joanna gets too apologetic, more than she should be. In that respect, the film does put across a wrong message even if it doesn’t intend to.










